How far are we willing to go for beauty?  According to  Plastic Surgery research ( in 2015 Americans spent more than 13.5 Billion dollars on surgical and non surgical procedures.  Women received over 90% of these procedures.  The top five surgical procedures for for women are Liposuction, Breast Augmentation, Tummy Tuck, Eyelid Surgery and Breast Lift.  The top five non surgical procedures for women are Botulinum Toxin, Hyaluronic Acid, Hair Removal, Chemical Peel and Microderm Abrasion.  I have seen where someone will have their eyelids lifted because they can’t see anymore.  These are typically for the name of beauty.  To fit in to the ideal standard.  We see it in the models of popular fashion magazines.  The very tall very skinny models with impossible to maintain figures.

Now we have labiaplasty and vaginoplasty.  The labiaplasty is more often requested by younger women because of either disymetry or large labia. (  This in of itself is a concern.  Are we starting to feel insecure because our size is different than others?  How did we get here?  Then there is the “Mommy Makeover?”(  This makeover is to recover our pre-baby bodies with breast augmentation, tummy tucks, labiaplasty and now a vaginoplasty.

The difference between the procedures and the vaginoplasty is that the vaginoplasty is related to partner complaints or relationship issues.  Vaginoplasty is done to tighten the opening to the vagina.  How far will we go to please our partners?  Is this a real problem or not?  As we age, our vaginas do to.  Our Vaginas shrink, the walls become thinner, our labia thins. (  Our partners are changing too.

So, why the new surgical procedures?  Are we feeling so insecure about ourselves that we need to live up to a standard of how are genitals are supposed to look?  A woman may have a vaginal laxity after childbirth.  This can have an effect on a womans’ enjoyment of sex as well.  With that said, the main source for sexual arousal and satisfaction  for a women is the clitoris.  The clitoris is located outside the vagina.  There are changes the couple can make to increase arousal of the clitoris during sex.(

Relationships change over time.  If your partner is complaining about a lax vagina, it may be something more.  When partners begin complaining about each others sexual fitness in the relationship, it is good to check in with a sex therapist or marriage therapist.  The therapist helps the couple to explore the reasons for the complaint.  Are they just physical or is there something else that is wrong?  It is easier to complain about someones physical being not satisfactory.  It is another thing to expose our deep longings and needs in a relationship.  When a couple has been together a long time, there tends to be a lot at stake if the relationship is melting away.

There are some valid reasons for a woman to get plastic surgery, but before going under the knife, it may be wise to check in and be certain this is really the issue.


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