Sex Therapy in Fort Collins, CO

Roughly 15-20% of our relationship satisfaction is rooted in sex. However, when sex breaks down in a relationship, it can cause 70% of the issues you and your partner experience. Is sex coming between you and your partner? Sexual issues can be barometer for our relationships. When sex is great, it adds to a relationship. When the sex is bad or non existent, it is a major source of dissatisfaction. If this is the case for you, finding a sex therapist you trust can help you and your partner reclaim your connection and your relationship. Weiler Counseling is proud to be your Fort Collins sex therapist.

What sex therapy in Fort Collins looks like

When people come to me with sexual issues either individually or in their relationship, I work with them on finding the root of the problem.  Every couple must work to strike a balance between the emotional bonds and physical bonds in their relationship. I work with these emotional bonds and the physical issues to help heal relationships and/or get used to your new normal.

During therapy, we will look at the root of the issues and work on re-creating a satisfying sexual relationship. We will work together to create a safe space for sexual exploration both individually and in your relationship.

Any homework will be done at home, in private, not in session.

Common Sexual Issues

Sexual Trauma

It has been estimated that one in three women and one in six men have been victims of sexual assault. After sexual assault or sexual abuse, life is not the same. This trauma fundamentally changes the way you respond to touch and your environment. You can heal from your trauma. If you have experienced abuse, it can be difficult to feel safe with your partner or anyone, and it can drain the intimacy from a relationship. If you or your partner are working through sexual trauma, working with a sex therapist can help give you the tools you need to reclaim yourself and your intimacy.

Signs of prior sexual trauma

• Being set off by behaviors of your partner or your environment and you aren’t sure why

• Lack of interest in sex

• Checking out during sex

• Disassociating during sex

• Feeling shame around sex or your body

• Avoiding or fearing intimacy with your partner

Working through this trauma with your partner can be both scary and liberating. Through counseling, you can gain the tools you need to work through your trauma, share your burden with your partner, and find safety again. You do not have to bear the burden of your trauma alone. What you experienced happened to you, not because of you. I am honored to walk with my clients on their journey to healing from sexual abuse.

Learn how this connection can help with trauma.  Dr. Sue Johnson: calming the threatened brain.

Aging and sexuality

As we age, our bodies change. That’s no secret. However, as our bodies change, our sexual function changes in kind. In fact, 50% of men will have a period of erectile dysfunction at some point in their life. Women experience the thinning of their vaginal wall, the thinning and lengthening of the Labia, the relaxing of the tissues of the urethra, and vaginal dryness and/or tightening that causes pain during and after menopause. While these changes are normal and common, they don’t need to stand in the way of a fulfilling sex life.

The first step is to determine whether or not your issues are stemming from a serious medical issue. Once this is ruled out, it’s time to expand your definition of sex and intimacy! During sex therapy, I will help you and your partner reclaim your sex life with your changing bodies so that you can have the best sex of your life. Getting older doesn’t mean growing out of sex; it means your sex life grows with you.